Why Do Some Couples Choose Path 1 - Accepting the Status Quo in Discernment Counseling?

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According to research, about 12% of couples the engage in Discernment Counseling end up deciding on Path 1. Often times, couples initially report "path 1 is not an option! I need change now!" And while path 1 does involve the status quo in terms of not deciding to divorce, or to engage in couples therapy to improve the relationship, there is a meaningful shift that can occur with a path 1 decision. Often times couples who decide on path one leave discernment counseling with a sense of better understanding of what got them to this place, a deepened level of accountability to their own contributions, and a constructive plan with their partner to reduce tension and expectations within the relationship, often times to serve a higher purpose.

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But Why Would We Stay Married If One Or Both Had been Considering Divorce?

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While not many couples choose path 1, it can be the right choice for a couple. Some of the common scenarios where couples choose path 1 with intention tend to involve having children that are close to graduation and moving out, when there is a serious health issues in the family, when finances may make it difficult to live without one another, or a desire to not live apart from small children. This decision can always be revisited as feelings, situations, or needs change. This choice is always made conjointly, with both partners agreeing to this path, with a plan manage life with reduced tension.

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